Unfortunately, most of our beliefs about cheating are false and can do more harm than good.
There is a real mythology about infidelity in relationships that may have little to do with the truth, but grows very well when passed from mouth to mouth. And the most common myth is the idea that betrayal is the result of a lack of love. According to psychologists, the situation is not so simple, because circumstances are very fond of betrayal.
Here are 7 of the most popular cheating myths.
Myth #1: Men cheat more than women.
Some insist that cheating is a typical male behavior, others that it is the lot of flirtatious women. Regardless of which version is closer to us, it has little to do with reality. Not everyone cheats, and it's impossible to know how many people have cheated on their partner.
Based on the available data, we can only guess that half of married men and a third of married women have cheated at least once in their lives. However, most people remain faithful for most of their lives.
People who expect their partner to cheat on them are likely to repay him in kind, and both of them will be unhappy as a result.
Myth #2: A fling can spice up a boring marriage.
Many people think that an affair will be a cure for boredom and everyday life. According to this principle, a small leap to the side was to make men masculine, women feminine, and relationships alive and vibrant. Unfortunately, this is a terrible superstition and it doesn't work.
The truth is that just about any fling destroys trust enough to turn a marriage into hell. Infidelity can shake the most durable and harmonious marriage.
Myth #3: People cheat when they don't like each other.
Another cheating myth is that people become unfaithful when they stop loving their partner. But often, when figuring out the reasons for cheating, people come to the conclusion that their marriage was fine before the affair happened, and that the label of lack of love was an attempt to explain and justify their cheating.
Myth #4: People cheat because they have high sexual needs.
The problem in bed can be solved in any relationship, but this requires desire and work on yourself.
And there are hundreds of cases when men cheat on their wives, in families where everything is fine with their intimate relationships, both regularity and sharpness of sensations.
Myth No. 5: Betrayal is to blame ... the one who was cheated on
Myths about cheating are full of prejudices that when a man cheats, he is most likely forced to do something, for example, the shortcomings of his wife (emotional, sexual or aesthetic). If the wife cheats, then her husband is to blame, who is dry or rude to her. It's a very natural human reaction to shirk responsibility for being unfaithful.
One way to avoid personal responsibility is to blame everything on the marriage itself, which suddenly turns out to be too early or too late and not good enough to remain faithful. Or some unchanging quality of a partner who just as suddenly becomes too old, too fat, too smart, too experienced or too inexperienced.
Unfortunately, this approach is a dead end. The facts are quite different: a spouse can make another unhappy, but cannot make him unfaithful.
Myth #6: It's best to pretend you don't know / Betrayal should be denied
There are people who stay out of trouble and would rather watch their house burn than scream "It's on fire" in front of others. Silence is the best fuel for betrayal.
The only way to fix the problems and possibly mend the relationship is to be honest about your infidelity.
Myth #7: Divorce is inevitable after romance.
If you think cheating is unforgivable, you probably never experienced it. Cheating doesn't always end in divorce. People rarely decide to leave because of one betrayal, and sometimes after such a situation, marriages only become stronger and happier.
What cheating myths do you know?
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